The Journey to Wholeness: Finding My Circle

When I was just three years old, my mother made a big decision. She left me in the care of my father and her family to go to America. Her dream was to create a better life for me and my siblings. But that meant I stayed behind, and my life became a journey I wasn’t expecting.

Between the ages of three and twelve, I moved more times than I could count. I lived in different houses, different cities, and even stayed with friends of friends. I lost track of where I had been and who I had met. But the hardest part was the men who hurt me when I was most vulnerable, men who took advantage of me in ways that left deep wounds.

After nine long years, I was finally reunited with my mother. But even that reunion came with a cost. I had to say goodbye to my friends, my community, and the country I had always called home. It felt like my world had been turned upside down once again.

My teenage years were rough. I struggled to fit in and feel like I belonged. The weight of everything I had been through felt too heavy at times, and there were moments when I wondered if it was all too much to bear. I even flirted with the idea of my absence from this world.

As I grew into adulthood, those feelings didn’t just go away. I still wrestled with the idea that I wasn’t enough. I wondered if I was truly lovable or if I would ever find a place where I belonged. But through therapy—both talking and somatic (body-based) therapy—I began to understand something important: my mind and body had done everything they could to keep me alive. They had built defenses, protecting me from the pain and fear of my past. The problem was, even when I was safe, my body still reacted like I was in danger.

I realized that the events of my childhood left deep imprints on me. These were like codes that shaped how I responded to the world. Unless I worked to change that wiring, I would keep reacting in ways that didn’t match the life I wanted to live. I would keep building walls instead of bridges.

That’s why I created MyCircle. After more than a decade of healing, I wanted to create a safe space for people just like me—people who are on a journey to bring all parts of themselves to the table. MyCircle is for you who are working to embrace every part of who you are, even the parts that feel heavy with shame, sadness, or fear. It’s a space where you can learn to change the way you see yourself, inviting in more love, joy, peace, and self-acceptance.

Together, we can build a life that feels whole—a life where every part of you belongs.